You are a dancer

Synchronicity: A Theory of Interactions, part 7

We started this series talking about the ocean of hidden information that we're swimming in every day, called Maya. 

We talked about synchronicity being a feedback mechanism to help us see ourselves and our situations more clearly through the murky ocean water.

We've talked about the mechanics of synchronicity. How the hidden information about what's possible, such as who we might meet today or what circumstances might happen to us, is not actually determined yet, but unfolds retroactively to meet us on our path.

We talked about the meaning we imbue into the world with every choice that we make. Synchronicity is then the response of the entire universe as a whole system, giving us feedback to our meaningful choices. We have the power to choose how we interpret the stories of our lives, crafting the narrative through our filters like a prism with white light.

What is the payoff?

A subtle shift in perception

When every interaction becomes a synchronicity, there can be a subtle shift in the way we perceive our lives.

A subtle shift from thinking in terms of what we should do towards what is possible when we take action. 

A subtle shift from "I'm trying to get things right" to being in charge.

So each thing becomes just another dance.

I remember in 7th grade I imagined myself like a chameleon. I could change my personality, change what music I liked, or whether I was into sports or nature, based on who I was with. This is my way of trying to get things right. I was looking for other people's assessments of me.

One day I realized that filter, and I peeled it back. Beneath it was just this open field in which I got to be in charge of what I wanted to do or be or feel, what music I wanted to like, what causes I wanted to stand up for. I began to make a shift from getting things right to being in charge.

Honoring ourselves as dancers

The problem if we don't honor ourselves as dancers is that we live surrounded by synchronicities but we feel like victims.

I love the metaphor of dancing. When we dance, we don't really worry about whether we should have done X, Y, or Z. We just feel into what's possible next. We don't get caught up catastrophizing about what's going to happen because we couldn't find our rhythm on that last song. We honor dancing for its undefined expressiveness.

Life in general is different from dancing in that there are real consequences and outcomes. When we do or don't decide to take a job or enter a relationship, we live with that choice afterwards.

But if we can receive the weight of that responsibility with grace, every interaction becomes a synchronicity and we honor ourselves as dancers.

Welcome to a Leap to Wholeness

We are starting a new series of social media posts around my second book, Leap to Wholeness, How the World is Programmed to Help Us Grow, Heal, and Adapt. One of the big themes in the book is identifying the filters that color the way we look at the world and ourselves. When we can identify a filter or belief we have, without trying to change it, we naturally start to see it better and it's easier to see beyond it. I offer this as a way of healing our old patterns of behavior.